About 10 years ago, you ordered me, in no uncertain terms, to stay away from your family. As I'm decidedly uninterested in your weird, pathologically insular family, I happily complied and continue to do so.
However, despite 14 years having passed, you persist in contacting my family.
A fool is defined by his actions. As your choice of family members is two, bitter old women, it's an interesting, odd definition.... Like definitely attracts like. Ridiculous. Whatever do you hope to gain?
As for the guilty parties, you can protest all you want that you love your children, but your actions reveal another story. Why you continue to fraternize with a person who abused your child and your grandchildren is beyond comprehension.